Each day praise her every effort: cook, clean,
child-rearing until you gain her respect. Reach
positive conclusions via wise thinking. Do not let
sniping control every waking hour, nor the checklist
of all your faults. Be proactive: take her up the
mountain, out on the beach, to the movies, into
her dream of art, into the majesty of pine forests
and hawk-nested poplars, sixty-foot white oaks, naked
picnics, the soft caress of caring, finally friends again
after so much fighting, disagreement, abandonment
of my dreams in order to support her dreams, only
to find out she’s not happy either! Unhappy with
your inability to flourish professionally, your angry
personality, your lack of friends, your fat body,
your philosophy, your political beliefs, your attempts
to push the marriage back into intimacy, your
unwillingness to buy a car, your inability to fit
in to Korean culture, it being void of emotion, or
legs which can not bear sitting on the floor to eat.
Ignore these and keep trying to open her nice side.
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